A.T. Robertson Commentary 1 Timothy 3:4

"one that ruleth well his own house, having [his] children in subjection with all gravity;" — 1 Timothy 3:4 (ASV)

Ruling (προισταμενον). Present middle participle of προιστημ, old word to place before and (intransitive as here) to stand before. See 1 Thessalonians 5:12; Romans 12:8.

In subjection (εν υποταγη). See verse 11.