Charles Ellicott Commentary John 11:19

"and many of the Jews had come to Martha and Mary, to console them concerning their brother." — John 11:19 (ASV)

And many of the Jews came to Martha and Mary.—Better, and many of the Jews had come...—They had come before our Lord’s arrival. The word “Jews” is to be understood in Saint John’s general sense (Compare to Note on John 1:19) of those opposed to our Lord, who had lately sought to stone Him (John 10:31), and afterwards to take Him by force (John 10:39).

The family at Bethany was one of position and substance (Compare to Notes on Matthew 26:6-13; Mark 14:3–9), and they would naturally have had many friends among the higher rank of the Jews. Another reading, which has considerable authority, is “had come to the women with Martha and Mary,” or “to Martha and Mary and their friends.”

To comfort them concerning their brother.—The days of mourning were usually thirty, which were divided into:

1. Three days of weeping;
2. Seven days of lamentation;
3. Twenty days of sorrow.

This fourth day after the death was the first of the seven days of lamentation. Lightfoot has collected, in a long note on this text, quotations from the Rabbis illustrating the mourning customs, and giving examples of the words used.