John Calvin Commentary Genesis 45:3

"And Joseph said unto his brethren, I am Joseph; doth my father yet live? And his brethren could not answer him; for they were troubled at his presence." — Genesis 45:3 (ASV)

I am Joseph. Although he had given them the clearest sign of his gentleness and his love, yet, when he told them his name, they were terrified, as if he had thundered against them. For as they reflected on what they deserved, the power of Joseph seemed so intimidating to them that they anticipated nothing for themselves but death.

When, however, he sees them overcome with fear, he offers no rebuke, but only strives to calm their agitation. Indeed, he continues gently to soothe them, until he has made them composed and cheerful.

By this example we are taught to be careful that sadness does not overwhelm those who are truly and seriously humbled by a sense of shame.

As long as the offender is deaf to rebukes, or confidently flatters himself, or wickedly and obstinately rejects admonitions, or excuses himself with hypocrisy, greater severity is to be used towards him. But rigor should have its limits; as soon as the offender lies prostrate and trembles under the conviction of his sin, let that moderation immediately follow which may raise up the one who is cast down, by the hope of pardon.

Therefore, so that our severity may be rightly and appropriately tempered, we must cultivate this inner disposition of Joseph, which will show itself at the proper time.