John Gill Commentary 2 Samuel 12:17

"And the elders of his house arose, [and stood] beside him, to raise him up from the earth: but he would not, neither did he eat bread with them." — 2 Samuel 12:17 (ASV)

And the elders of his house arose, [and went] to him, to raise
him up from the earth
To persuade him to rise up, and sit upon a seat, and go to bed, after having taken some food; these were some of the chief officers at court, and had the management of the affairs of his household:

but he would not ;
they could not persuade him to it:

neither did he eat bread with them ;
that evening, as he had used to do; they being the princes of his court, who were wont to sit at table with him.