John Gill Commentary Colossians 3:19

"Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." — Colossians 3:19 (ASV)

Husbands, love your wives (See Gill on Ephesians 5:25).

and be not bitter against them ;
turning love into hatred of their persons; ruling with rigour, and in a tyrannical manner; behaving towards them in a morose, churlish, and ill natured way; giving them either bitter words, or blows, and denying them their affection, care, provision, protection, and assistance, but using them as servants, or worse. All which is barbarous, brutish, and unchristian, and utterly unbecoming the Gospel.